It is funny how as children many of us learnt that we have to do things to be loved! And this is the way we act throughout childhood and then as adults. More often than not we don’t even realise we are doing things for love. When we realise we are it creates great freedom.
I challenge you to think do you really have to do anything to be loved? If you are a Mum or a Dad and you look down at a baby sleeping in a cot, does the baby have to do anything to be loved? will you only love the baby if it doesn’t cry? No, of course you won’t and crying is one way the baby is communicating at that stage!
If you are a wife or a husband, or have a lover or a partner – does your partner really have to do anything to be loved or do you just love them because you love them?
Why is it that we think we have to do things to be loved? It is often a way we think we can control how to be loved?
More on this topic in another post. In the meantime how are you controlling how much love you get?